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8 Signs You Are Dating The Wrong Person

Is there a nagging voice inside you? Something telling you that maybe this person you're spending time with isn't the best person for you to be with? That there's someone better? That your current relationship isn't what you had dreamed for yourself? If so, then these are probably feelings you want to explore further. Here are eight signs that you are dating the wrong person.

1. You're not Happy
This is a great place to start. Someone who is dating the right person consistently enjoys the relationship and feels a general sense of happiness. We're not saying that they wouldn't argue or be upset with their partner occasionally; even the healthiest couples do that. And we're not saying that there wouldn't be times when a person in a good relationship would get down or struggle emotionally at some level. But generally speaking, a person who is in the right relationship is going to be happy. So if you find yourself unhappy much of the time – and especially when you're with your partner – then that's a fairly clear sign that this may not be the best person for you.

2.You don't feel good about yourself
In addition to feeling happy, a person in a good relationship usually has a positive self esteem. Sure, they will have doubts and insecurities, and they may even deal with some bigger questions about themselves. But the time they spend with their partner will make them feel better about themselves, not worse. In contrast, if your partner exacerbates your self doubts and undermines your confidence, then that's a major red flag that this is not a good person for you to be in a relationship with. You want someone who affirms and celebrates the great things about you, not someone who wrecks your self confidence and torpedoes your every attempt at growth.

3.The people you trust urge you to get out
If the people you trust and are closest to feel that you've found a good catch and therefore encourage the relationship, that's a good sign that you two may belong together. On the other hand, if the people who love you the most are begging you to get away from someone, then that person's probably not the one for you. Of course, sometimes your friends and family may choose someone for you who isn't a great match. In these cases, it's not always wise to follow their advice. But if they are the people you trust the most and who know you best, and they are urging you to get out of your current relationship, then you owe it to yourself to give their advice a serious listen.

4. You find yourself constantly thinking about someone else
It's not always the case that a person is wrong because of some sort of character flaw or personal defect. Sometimes, the problem is simply that the person isn't someone else. If you are dating one person but secretly wishing you were with somebody else, then that's a problem. It could be that it's an ex you're still carrying a torch for. Or maybe it's someone else in your life you wish you could be with. Regardless, if you are constantly (or even frequently) wishing you were dating a different person, then that's a sure-fire sign that your current relationship is not all it should be.

5. You find yourself denying facts you know to be true
This is the old "river in Egypt" problem-you're swimming in "de Nile." And it can happen to all of us. We know something is true, but we just can't bring ourselves to see it or admit it. Maybe you don't want to believe something negative about your partner, or you want to ignore the fact that all you two ever do is argue when you're together. Whatever the actual issue, if you are working hard to deny facts about your relationship that you know to be true, then you are probably dating the wrong person.

6. The cons of staying together outweigh the pros
A cost-benefit analysis can be helpful in situations other than at the office. Sit down for a few minutes and write down the advantages of continuing to date the person you are with. Then list the disadvantages. When you compare the lists, you might determine that the reasons to stay together are more compelling than the reasons to break up. But if the opposite appears to be the case, then let logic be your guide and move on to someone else.

7. Your instincts are saying get out
As a general rule, voices inside you are there for a reason, and they ought to be listened to. Sometimes an inner voice may tell us that we've found our soul mate, or simply that we should continue to pursue a relationship until we discover how fulfilling it can be. But sometimes, something within us is whispering (or even screaming) that we're dating the wrong person. If this is the case for you, then one of the worst things you can do is to ignore that voice. Give it free reign and let it direct you to the conclusion you may have already come to.

8. You already know the truth
It might be the case that at this point, you really don't know whether you are dating the wrong person. If so, then you may want to continue the relationship for a while longer so you two can explore whether you should be together. Relationships often take time to achieve their full potential. But you may determine that you are dating someone you should definitely not be dating. If so, then you need to be brave enough to do what you need to do, and end the relationship.

Find someone who treats you like you need to be treated and makes you happy. Someone who makes you feel good about yourself, and whom the people you trust encourage you to be with. Someone who, when you are really honest with yourself, you know deserves to become that special person in your life. When you find that person, you won't have to worry that you're dating the wrong person.

Sizing Up America's Most Popular Diets

Experts weigh in on the pros and cons of each plan.

Did those holiday pounds creep up on you? Over indulgence is normal this time of year, but lets get back on track, summer will be here before you know it.
As someone who has tried Atkins, I can definitely say it works! But at what cost? Check out this review of some of America's most popular diet plans, you may find one that's right for you.





The key to losing weight—and keeping it off—is to find the eating plan that fits your personality and lifestyle. To help, we've rounded up expert opinions on the pros and cons of the 10 most popular diets in America.

"All the popular diets can help you lose weight because they provide almost identical calorie intakes," says nutritional biochemist and author Shawn Talbott, Ph.D. "But different people may do better on different diets because of personal tastes. For instance, if you love bread, don't even think about trying Atkins … because it won't work."

Here's a look at the 10 most popular diets in America:

Jenny Craig
Tasty, ready-made meals and snacks—"Jenny's Cuisine"—are perks of Valerie Bertinelli and Queen Latifah's favorite diet (which is similar to NutriSystem). Amy Hendel, health expert and author of Fat Families, Thin Families (Benbella Books, 2008), sums it up: "No thinking, just eating."

Pros: Jenny Craig is a balanced, calorie-controlled diet with weekly consultations in person or by phone.

Cons: Jenny's Cuisine gets expensive (though a short-term stint could teach portion control). "Average people aren't under the same scrutiny as the celebrities who lost tons of weight, so the pressure to stay on track is decreased," says Hendel. In addition, participants may tire of the prepared meals and may not learn how to count calories outside the program.

Mediterranean Diet
Rather than focusing on calories, this healthy eating plan revolves around veggies, whole grains, olive oil, nuts, fish, poultry, and dairy—with limited red meats and moderate wine consumption.

Pros: The home cooking emphasis makes it inexpensive and easier to track fats, cholesterol, and sodium, says Hendel. Plus, these flavorful foods don't trigger feelings of deprivation. Nutritionist Haruko Oyama of Montefiore Medical Center says this diet is connected to numerous health benefits, such as decreased risks of cardiovascular disease, and possibly diabetes and Alzheimer's.

Cons: "The effect of the Mediterranean Diet on weight loss specifically hasn't been as widely researched as the health effects," says Oyama. Plus, people could take the freedom to eat healthy fats a little too far—and overdo it.

Zone Diet
You won't overdo it if you stay in the Zone: one gram of fat for every two grams of protein and three grams of carbohydrates, meant to balance hormones and control hunger.

Pros: New York City-based nutritionist and personal trainer Ariane Hundt says, "This diet promotes fat loss, reduces inflammation, increases energy, reduces cholesterol, and has anti-aging benefits." Plus, nutritionists generally favor healthy, balanced meals.

Cons: "The fat, protein, [and] carb groups are a little simplistic," says Hendel. "We need some calcium from dairy every day, and we need to separate grain-based carbohydrates from fruits and vegetables (the Zone counts them as one). And, limiting grains can be difficult to do over the long term. Most Zone-committed eaters seem to be highly motivated, physically active people who can afford the home-delivered meals."

Weight Watchers


This diet giant also sells its own pre-made meals plus books and magazines, and recently introduced the new Momentum program, replacing the traditional Flex and Core plans. Momentum revolves around the POINTS system and offers strategies for overcoming temptations. Diet coach Laurie Beebe, R.D., says, "Weight Watchers is effective because people can stay on it for years and keep the weight off."

Pros: Regular meetings offer information-driven discussions, weigh-ins, tools such as food tracking journals and activity calculators, and encouragement—plus Weight Watchers provides online support. Beebe confirms that the portion control, controlled calories, and accountability help people lose weight.

Cons: Each meeting costs about $10 (depending on your area), tools cost extra, and the POINTS system doesn't necessarily reflect the nutritional value of food.

Volumetrics
In this plan, nutrient-dense foods full of fiber, vitamins and minerals are encouraged (such as veggies, fruits, broth-based soups, nonfat milk, etc.), while energy-dense foods are in the no-fly zone (cheeseburgers, cookies, packaged foods, etc.).

Pros: It's a healthy, inexpensive way to lose weight. "Diets often fail because people feel hungry," says dietician Jodi Greebel, author of The Little Black Apron: A Single Girl's Guide to Cooking with Style and Grace (Polka Dot Press, 2007). "Volumetrics encourages large quantities of nutrient-dense foods, which fill you up. This plan also encourages food journals and exercising—two keys to permanent weight loss."

Cons: "Volume alone may not satisfy your taste buds," says Hundt, potentially leaving you vulnerable to those tempting fat, sugar, and salt cravings.

The Flat Belly Diet
Liz Vaccariello, editor-in-chief of Prevention magazine, co-wrote the book about this female-focused, Mediterranean-style diet. The claim: Eating monounsaturated fatty acids (MUFAs) at every meal will flatten bellies without exercise. Meals are capped at 400 calories, foods that lead to bloating are discouraged, and participants are told to eat every four hours.

Pros: "Eating a specific number of calories regularly will help maintain energy levels, stabilize blood glucose levels, and prevent hunger," says Susan Kraus, a clinical dietitian at Hackensack University Medical Center. "Plus, the recipes are tasty, which keeps dieters satisfied."

Cons: Research doesn't prove that diets target specific body parts, and health experts aren't crazy about de-emphasizing exercise.

Weigh Down Diet
Satisfy your cravings here! "This diet focuses on portion sizes and hunger cues, which are very important for weight loss," says Greebel. All foods are allowed in this Higher Power–based diet; eating is motivated by the body's physical needs.

Pros: Kraus says dieters are encouraged to become more spiritual, stop obsessing about food, and take more responsibility for their eating habits.

Cons: Greebel points out that it's difficult to lose weight if you're not watching what you eat, even if you're careful with portion sizes. Kraus adds that people might need a more specific, structured plan to lose weight successfully.

South Beach Diet
If you need structure, here's one of the strictest diets on the market. Cardiologist Arthur Agatston's diet is divided into three phases: Eliminate Cravings, Lose Steadily, and Maintain. Strict guidelines about reduced-fat dairy, lean proteins, veggies and healthy fats are part of every phase.

Pros: "The core of this diet is a heart-health promoting, balanced diet that most people can follow if they don't mind the rules," says Hendel.

Cons: Dr. Jan Evans, R.D., of Richmond, Va., warns, "The first two phases are unhealthy, unbalanced, and not only cause fluid loss [and] dehydration, but can cause ketosis and electrolyte imbalance. The diet is too restrictive in the first two phases, and lacks essential nutrients."

Atkins Diet
Exercising is essential for losing weight—and so is eating a balanced diet. Similar to the Scarsdale diet that rose to fame in the late 1970s, the Atkins plan focuses on increased protein intake and limited carbohydrates.

Pros: "These very low carb diets can quickly and dramatically shed pounds," says Hendel. "Water weight goes first, then fat."

Cons: Low-carb diets have a bad rap in the medical community because of the potential long-term health effects of excess protein: high cholesterol, kidney abnormalities, cancer risks, unhealthy metabolic states, and osteoporosis. Atkins now includes more plant-based foods than when it was first introduced, though many nutritionists still deem it unhealthy. "Most people simply cannot sustain eating this much protein," Hendel says. "I've also smelled the sweat and breath odors of people on long-term high-protein diets, and it's a bit offensive."

Sugar Busters Diet
This low-carb eating plan is similar to Atkins, but not as intense.

Pros: "This diet steers clear of sugar-laden processed foods," says Hundt. "Natural foods—lean proteins, good fats, vegetables and whole grains—are emphasized, resulting in balanced blood sugar levels, increased fat burning, and a healthy lean body."

Cons: A potential drawback of this low-carb diet is increased protein consumption, which may have negative health effects in the long run. Steering clear of sugar is an excellent way to lose weight, but choosing a healthy balance of proteins, carbs and fats is also important.

And, here's one bonus eating plan to chew on:

The Maker's Diet
This diet is based on Biblical and scientific principles. It encourages dieters to observe God's dietary laws and attack the three I's: insulin, infection and inflammation. Fasting, supplements, cleansing agents, and kosher practices are promoted—making this diet less appealing to the general population.


By Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen for MSN Health & Fitness

Meeting HIS Parents For The Holidays?

Holidays are a time of year for many joyful experiences, make sure this potential nerve-wrecker is one of them with these helpful hints from Tyra Banks.
Thanks Ty-Ty!



Five rules for meeting his folks.

Ah, l'amour -- you and your boyfriend are in lovey-dovey land and all of your friends call you the perfect couple. You guys are in perfect bliss and there's only one thing left to do: meet his parents. Those three simple words could burst your blissful bubble in seconds, but if you follow these simple rules for meeting his family, you'll be calling her "mom" in no time -- or at least calling her by her first name.

Rule No. 1: Focus, Focus, Focus
It's definitely an unnerving experience, but the most important thing to remember when meeting his parentals is to be present. Don't let your nerves get the better of you and get lost in the conversation -- you'll just come off as the aloof quiet girl who is never heard from again.

Rule No. 2: Hey Big Spender, Don't Be an Offender
It's definitely okay to bring some sort of little gift, but don't spend your whole paycheck trying to impress them. No one likes a show off. It's more touching if you show you've gotten to know a little bit about them. Mom's a diabetic? Bring a dessert out of the Splenda cookbook. She'll be impressed you thought of her and will be happy to know you'll keep her little boy well fed.

Rule No. 3: That's a Question for Him
You're inevitably going to get at least one question from them that's a little awkward for you to answer. Instead of running the risk of having to break bad news to them yourself -- "Um, actually Mrs. Smith, we already live together" -- bounce those suckers his way. "Well, honey, what do you think about moving in together?" Then HE'S the bearer of bad news and you're in the clear.

Rule No. 4: DON'T Drown Your Worries
Look, it might be the most obvious choice to help you mellow out, but by no means should you reach for the bottle to loosen up! Sure, have the glass of wine offered to you -- but even if he's driving home, don't polish off the whole bottle. This goes double for getting obliterated the night before, it's not exactly going to win them over if you spend half of brunch in the bathroom, reliving last night's escapades.

Rule No. 5: Friendly Fire
Even though you're playing it safe, don't play it boring. Sure, your uber-politeness will certainly help you pass inspection, but it won't win you the sought after "we like her!" Instead of just asking the general questions about the weather, ask questions that make his parents elaborate on their fun and personal sides. If college comes up, ask them some leading questions about their experiences and before you know it, they're reliving their glory days and sharing playful stories. And -- ta da! -- you're the fun gal who let them remember the good ol' days.

-Tyrashow.com

Deciphering The Dress Code.

Lately the line between casual and formal wear has become increasingly blurred. There is much effort required in following traditional guidelines of dressing for an event, and so it is that blue jeans have become a red carpet norm, when they used to only be fit for ditch digging.
Whether this is for better or for worse is personal opinion. Shouldn't you be allowed to dress in whatever way you choose? On the other hand, we can all appreciate the old adage that dressing well is akin to good manners. Think of a woman you consider elegant...would she attend a special event in jeans? No? So why should any of us aspire to less?
My personal style is somewhat conservative, so please feel free to disagree. In my opinion, when you are friendly with those putting on the event, you may know what is acceptable based on more than the guidelines of an invitation. If however, you are at all unsure, it may be best to familiarize oneself with traditional standards of dress so as not to make a faux pas.

White Tie:
Men should wear tuxedos with tails, without exception.
Women should wear full length evening gowns, with long (opera) gloves.
Remember this?

This is a perfect example not only of white tie dress, but also, just how outdated it is. But if an occasion ever calls for it, you'll know.

Black Tie:

Men should wear tuxedos, sans tails.

Women should wear full length evening gowns, but you can definitely skip the gloves now, unless you like them. Be extremely careful should you choose to get creative here, and only do so if you are very familiar with with the host/hostess. The invite said black tie for a reason. If a gown really rubs you the wrong way, you may want to try a tux in a feminine cut. Here are a few examples of what I think is appropriate for a black tie event.

Beautiful open back on this gown, a nice back can be incredibly sexy.
Mary L Couture Open Back Jeweled Gown. $306.00 at Saks.com

Aidan Mattox Niteline Women's Sleeveless O-Ring Long Silk Chiffon Dress. $360.00 at Bloomingdales.com

Amsale Party One-Shoulder Chiffon Gown. $770.00 at saks.com

ABS One Shoulder Gown $435.00 at saks.com

ABS is known for recreating fashion do's. I absolutely adored this look on Katherine Hiegl at the 2008 Oscars. The skirt of the ABS version is a bit of a letdown though, but I'm seriously considering buying this dress and seeing what some good tailoring can do to it. So, come awards season, if a celeb is wearing a dress you love, remember to look out for a version from ABS coming soon.


Cocktail:
Cocktail allows for a slightly more sexy and provocative style of dress. These dresses are generally not far below knee length, and depending on how much leg you like to show, they could be much higher than knee length.

Mandalay Beaded Dress. $1250.00 neimanmarcus.com

Mandalay Jewel Collar Dress. $965.00 neimanmarcus.com

Phoebe Couture Tier Petal Dress. $330.00

BCBGMAXAZRIA Strapless Faux Two Piece Dress. $298.00 Nordstrom.com

Notte by Marchesa One-Shoulder Chiffon Dress. $660.00 neimanmarcus.com

Diane von Furstenberg Devette Sequined Dress. $525.00 saks.com

Shout out to SGHI reader, Samantha, who inspired this post.

Continuing Education.

Nasty baby...
Anyway, build your knowledge by taking online language classes for FREE Courtesy of The BBC!
So get prepared for your next vacay, or just make the people around you envious when you can chat up the cute Italian waiter in his native tongue.

http://www.bbc.co.uk/languages/

Your Wardrobe May Need A DVF Intervention!

Today, very good friend of SGHI, Jamila, was preparing to go to her company's annual Holiday Party.
I was on the phone with her while she lamented what she felt was a lack of wardrobe choices, although we shop ALL THE TIME. In this instance I felt her though, because the same dresses you might choose to wear for a night out on the town with your girls, may not be appropriate for a night with bosses and co-workers.
Hot and sexy 20-somethings that we are, you don't want the people you work with to drink too much punch and start staring at your T 'n' A, it's not your fault you're the perkiest in the room!

This is why I adore Diane Von Furstenberg! I am a collector of DVF, with no intention of stopping. My boyfriend makes fun of me every time I pick up something new from them, but these classic pieces are beyond fashion, and will never go out of style. They are appropriate for any occasion, and exude sophistication and well-heeled taste. Stock up!



Of course, the best place to start a DVF collection is with a classic, Black wrap dress. They are made every season, you can get them anytime.





Jazz things up with a bold pattern or bright color.







You will always be adult sexy, not "pussy-cat dolls" sexy with a vast array of styles and colors to choose from. Happy Hunting!

Get An A+ In Participation This Thanksgiving.

If You're hosting Thanksgiving this year, good luck to you babes! Have fun with those dishes...
Thankfully, most of us will be guests this year, lightening the workload immeasurably.
Still, you should never show up empty-handed, and putting a little work into what you bring is always most impressive. If you want to cook something, but don't yet have a "signature dish" Check out The Food Network Website:
http://www.foodnetwork.com/thanksgiving/package/index.html
Or, the website for whichever chef you like best, be it Martha, Rachael, or Emeril BAM!
and try your hand at a recipe.

I suggest you experiment, and try cooking a dish or two at home for yourself first. You don't want to be embarrassed when your platter is the untouchable one.
I always bring something that
1. I can cook well.
2. Travels well. Food is eaten with all the senses, you don't want yours to get all jacked up looking on the ride over. It may taste good, but it will look like someone stepped on it.
3. Does not require much prep or re-heating time. You absolutely do not want to take up time in someone else's kitchen while they are preparing their meal!
4. Try not to step on your hosts toes by preparing something they are already making.

That said, I think pasta dishes are a great option. Ziti, lasagna, baked mac & cheese. For dessert pies or cookies, please stay away from frosted cakes. See rule number 2.

If you truly are all thumbs in the kitchen, bring a bottle of wine or order a platter from freshdirect.com. Please don't front like you made it yourself, try the berries/chocolate platter, something where everyone won't ask you all evening of you cooked it.
I had an aunt that layed out some KFC one year and pretended she cooked it. Everyone knows finger lickin' good when they taste it!

Good Luck!

Alexyss K. Tylor

About a year ago Alexyss K. Tylor became a cyber sensation when videos of her public access show, entitled "Vagina Power" hit the net.
I loved her videos, but I had kind of forgotten about her until today when I heard a new song from Cam'ron where he sprinkles in a few samples of her speaking from one of her shows.
Anyway, I wont bother posting the song "Bottom of her pu$$y hole" because as you would imagine, it's pure foolishness. If you want to hear it, check our good friend at Livestyle for the link.
I will post a few faves from my girl Alexyss, because I still think this is some truly hilarious, insane, and insightful commentary, from a woman who's been through it. Definitely Not Safe For Work, but you'll have a good laugh when you get home.
BTW, that's her Mama onstage with her.






OK, last one. Some guy tells her he would like to make her his "Bust it baby" and she goes OFF on him, as she should! Although I'm familiar with the song that spawned the term, I'm not even sure what exactly that means, but how any woman couldn't tell that it's dissrespectful is beyond me. I see way too many women reffering to themselves as that, and quite frankly I think it's disgusting. If shes crazy, I might just be crazy too.

Is a "Booty Call" okay when you're having a Dry Spell? (Kamilah's Take)

* A couple of posts below, the lovely and talented Alicia gave her perspective on a dilemma that some people may have had encounters with.
This is my $00.2 on the matter.



Gee... 3 years, huh? I'd consider 1 year a dry spell, 3 is like the fucking Sahara. Or should I say like Antarctica, because it's so icy and frigid. LOL! I actually read an article in a reputable magazine ( I wish I could find it, maybe New York Magazine?) that claimed that if you didn't make use of your genitals, they would in fact, begin to shrivel and dry up. Deadass!
But I digress, what one does, or preferably two do, in his/her/their bedroom as consenting adults is their business. I personally do not advocate casual sexual activity amongst those I know, the safety of your vaginal and mental health is at stake, and "the D" might make you stab somebody. But, lust is lust I suppose, and some people must act on their urges.

There are larger issues to tackle here though, your friend should do some serious self reflection to figure out what it is that she really wants. For someone who has had the discipline to undergo three years of self imposed celibacy, I can't imagine that just sex would be enough. What about intimacy and companionship? Will sex be enough when she doesn't get so much as a phone call come Valentines day? When she needs help with something and he refuses, but feels comfortable to call her late night, when he has needs? Will it be enough if she develops feelings for this man, but he's already filed her into his jumpoff category, likely eliminating herself as girlfriend material for him? Yes, he may think of her as a ho, jumpoff or some variation on the word, it goes with that territory. But does it matter? She's already passed judgement on him. She thinks HE is not good enough, right? Besides we need ho's in the world. Somebody's got to mop the floor, somebody's got to be the ho. It makes the world go 'round.

The fact of the matter is, she may not really know if these men are "up to par". You have to give yourself time to get to know an individual before you make that judgement call. You can learn someones personality traits, but until she hits the bedroom, she will not know if the "workout" will be good, and it may very well be wack. So she should take her time.

Also, what is her definition of "up to par" and is it realistic? Furthermore, is SHE up to par? What does SHE have to offer? Does it match up to the standards she is expecting of her potential suitors?
I know that finding a partner who you can connect with is difficult. But that doesn't mean you jump out the window, and settle for even less than the original offer. "Like nah, you're not good enough to date me, but I trust you enough to put a part of your body inside of my body, and for that time, hold my life and future in your hands." This doesn't add up to me.

My advice to your friend would be: Keep your knees closed, but change your game plan. Think long and hard about the things that you can and cannot put up with from a man, and whether or not the values and goals of the men you date mesh well with your values and goals, that should be what indicates if he's up to par. She may need to change her hunting ground, where do you meet these men? I hope it's not the club, or the internet or anything gross like that. Ew.
Finally, no one likes to hear this, but she may also want work on herself. By being the best woman she can be, she may find herself attracting a different sort of man. And EVERYONE can improve themselves.
But if the "D" deficit is too great, do you. Be safe, and make wise choices about who you bestow your blessings upon. It should be VIP, a very exclusive p***y,  you choose what letters are hiding behind those asterisks.

Is a "Booty Call" okay when you're having a Dry Spell?

So, I have a friend that hasn't gotten "any" in about 3 years... No, I'm not kidding! Practically a born again virgin, right? :) It's not as if she doesn't want to... (Trust me she does in the worst possible way). It's just that the men that she becomes acquainted with aren't up to par. She's run into a few of them that although they aren't looking to settle down, they do have the potential to be of another use to her (like giving her a good Work Out. :) Although this idea is particularly appealing to her, she has trepidations about it because Casual Sex isn't something that she's ever tried out before or even considered for that matter. In hard times, things that you've never pondered start to become more enticing. One of her biggest obstacles is getting over the fact that people may view her as a Hoe (No, not the gardening tool).

Do you think that it's morally wrong to entertain a relationship where the sole purpose is to satisfy your sexual cravings? What happens when a decent man comes around that you feel may be relationship material, but you're having difficulty cutting this sexual relationship loose because you've become addicted to the D? What do you do then? Do you juggle both until the relationship with this new person becomes sexual, or do you go to Ricky's and stock up on every Sex Toy imaginable before ending the relationship with your lover?

Here's my Advice: GO FOR IT, have a clear understanding of what your getting yourself into. Don't expect the dynamics of the relationship to change, and for your partner to change his ways. Be realistic about all expectations. Agree that anyone can end the relationship at anytime. Lastly but most importantly "DON'T GET ATTACHED", Just because it's Good D, doesn't mean that it belongs to you and only you :)

What do you guys think? Should she or shouldn't she engage in such a relationship? ... Fellas if you're reading this, what terms would you want the woman to abide by? The end of this Drought depends on you folks...

In honor of this topic, I have decided to post this song... I find it only fitting.

Feature Song



Get @ me....