Friday Afternoon Reading.

I'm going to assume you're bored at work, and need a little something to pass the time until your weekend officially begins. I found this on a message board and thought that it was an interesting read. This man is apparently upset that women wont approach him, and he has a theory about why this is:

I'm in the ATL where yes, there is a plethora of  women and my observations this summer confirm why I think the vast majority of them are turning me off (and I hate to say it).

The impression I get is that women are ridiculously insecure about being chosen and that there is nothing more important to them. Nothing. What I see as I've improved myself is that these sistas out here go out of their way to put on a mask of indifference solely to feel like you are choosing them based on their beauty/booty alone. Don't know about you but you but I placed looks secondary a long time ago. And it's very consistent. I might be at a spot that advertises to single women, but when that handsome, approachable dude does stroll in-they get scared. Oh they'll check you out on the sly when they think you're not looking but are loath to make eye contact, smile, speak unless spoken to, etc. They would rather go home with their girls (again), then put in some effort into getting a man's attention (outside of getting herself done up).

This is unbearable to me and extremely unnatural as we all know how other groups of women are minus the psychological hangups of conversing with us.  they don't need a man to jump through hoops from jump to make them feel validated. And that's what I think it comes down to. Validation. Some of the "bolder"  women or those who don't feel quite a sense of entitlement (unfortunately often big/rough lookin girls) may stand next to a brotha and, I guess, wait to be acknowledged but it's all surrounded in an air of dishonestly, pride and indifference. And we KNOW better. Personally I think there's nothing more important to a woman than having a man. But so many have adopted the "..A man finds a wife" mantra to avoid putting themselves out there and allow their low self esteems to be fed. That's real talk. They are coming off very psychologically damaged, weak and basically a hot mess.  she's got to be stepping her game up (no, her house and career don't count-how about weight and mental health?) as some of us are trying to.

And I allowed ample time and experience to help form my opinions on this. So my question for men who HAVE achieved and HAVE become desireable to women is this...Is this what is to expect of most women? A conflicted psychological state? A desire for a man but stronger desire for a man to "choose her over all the others".

So, what do you think? Ladies, do you approach men, or do you wait to be approached? Fellas, do you like women to make the first move? Do you see it as a sign of her being confident with herself, or of desperation?

Do you take it as a sign of insecurity if a woman would rather have a man approach and strike up conversation?

Here are a couple of opposing responses to the topic to get your wheels turning.

Response 1:
There was a time when a man would approach a woman. He would court her. Now it seems that men want to be approached. This goes against the nature of the female. Men like the chase and women like to be chased. This is the natural progression of the male/female relationship. The entire process has been broken down and destroyed. Women are chasing men and men are allowing themselves to be chased. Some men have 4 or 5 women chasing them. Eventually women get tired of putting in all that effort and the fruits of their labor are never achieved so they have stopped pursuing men and in the process found themselves not wanting to be pursued. So women sit back and give off more negative energy than an electron. 
What you have to do is find the woman that you want and pursue her. Court her like they did back in the day before the sexual revolution and womens lib started to corrupt our thinking. Women need attention and a man that can communicate with them. If you are tall, dark, handsome, educated and employed...the world is yours. Don't let  women make you feel like less than the King that you are.

Response 2:

You brothers sound like bitchz. Don't fault the sisters for not wanting a weak man. You sit there all uppidy wondering why sister don't chose you. Then you have self esteem issues yourself. How exactly have you become desireable to these women? Your job and education mean nothing because they don't even know you. It's about having GAME and you either have it or you don't. It's in the females nature to prefer the stronger male, the man that pursues what he wants, the alpha male, and we really don't need to debate this because the theory is definitely more sound than your personal observations. If a woman checks me out on the sly, let the games begin. All I need is a look of interest. I love the chase. I believe a sister would rather go home alone than with some weak ass brother that would settle for a bitch because she talks to him, than go after what he wants. Are you scared to get shot down? It is not in a woman's nature to openly pursue a male. That's bullshit if I ever heard it. So quit making all these bullshit excuses. If you believe these bitchz are speaking to because they have high self esteem than your confused at best. There's a gang of fit, educated, beautiful sisters out there. And you are sitting there waiting for them to make something happen. one.